In my last blog, I discussed when a parent is in early recovery. However, once recovery is established, this is a different matter. The time frame to establish recovery varies. For some people, this may be a year; for others 6 months, and for others 2 years.
The security of your recovery often rests on how committed you are to working the steps. That is a far cry from knowing the steps or hearing others discuss the steps. Your personal step work lays the foundation for recovery far better than just attending meetings.
If sobriety is precarious, it’s best to delay any conversations with your children. You are setting a powerful example that shows the effectiveness of the steps. Do not proceed if you do not feel stable.
When you do feel ready to talk about recovery with your children, remember to get input before you proceed. Ask your sponsor, therapist, counselor, or those who know you intimately. In AA it is paramount to not tackle challenges unaided.
A family committed to living a new sober life must be secure in their recovery efforts and in their relations.
There are various approaches. Some parents are comfortable with occasional casual conversation. Others prefer to have deeper sit-down talks.
As a former educator and counselor, I have always found the use of story as helpful, especially with children. It gives you and them a focus. There is less intensity for both parties. This is where my materials will be helpful.
I’d like to address the ways people have used my stories in the next blog.